Break up and move on??? what do u think?

**JennyLynn** · March 18th, 2011 07:12 AM

The relationship between me and my bf has been complicated from day 1 and so it still is.
But this very time, things r really changing for me and I think of giving it a final break up and move on with my life.
Flashback: some time ago my bf told me he got this contact to one old school friend (and a good family friend) from his hometown which he haven't seen for the past 20 years or so. I was feeling happy for him and told him that he's lucky. Then the girl started to call and write him almost every day, and that was just fine with me, coz I thought after 20 yrs. there's a lot to talk about.
so far, so good.
One day, it happend that I saw one of the message in his phone,... and I was a bit confused that she was sending him kisses. But I thought, well, that does not mean anything. Would be stupid of me to make it something just to borther myself.
After some days my bf was asking me to check fyling tickets in the net and so I did. He told me that his schoolfriend is planing to visit him within this month. I offered him, that she could sleep in our house since we got enought space. 'NO, was the answer. His brother came and they were talking about this girl and were making plans where to take her and so on. It happend that all his family part, that was around, was informed of her visit. My bf ftold me that they will go to an event a family party or so. By this time I was not thinking of anything bad. I was feeling happy and shared the joy. the day, the girl came to the airport, my bf went to pick her with a friend. I thought they will take her to our home and introduce me to her, instead my bf told me thatthey won't stay in vienna. he came home around midnight, that day. I did not say anything,... I went to sleep. Next day morning, he left the house early and again ,.. he came home around midnight. That's when I started to ask him a view questions. How come everyday, there's a different story to tell,... and ' if she is such a good friend to the family , wich I am part of, why does he not introduce me to her?' I asked him. I told him that I feel furt and at the same time I feel I am not a part of this family again. His brother , his cousin, his friends.. all of them were at the party,... and noone asked me to go with them. He made me unsterstand that he does not really care. All he was thinking 'bout was this girl. So he went early in the morning to pick the girl from the hotel. came home again around midnight. I saw the picture he took from her in the hotel and I was looking long at it. The girl wasn't looking pretty in my eyes, she looked 'used-off', but I could not shake the feeling of jelousy. I started thinking wheird stuff in my head. That night I didn't find any sleep. I was resting in the livingroom till the morning. That morning wasd the last day of her visit and my bf took her back to the airport. When he came back, I did not say anything. I was sleeping at the couch that night. next day, everything seemed to change back to 'normal'. At least for him. I notized that he's taking his phone along with him, anywhere he goes. and when he wants to sleep, he turns it into silent mode. I did not ask or say anything,... I tgought I will wait and see what the time will bring. after two days,... my bf fell asleep in the afternoon. I started checking his phone. I saw the late messages from that girl, as my heart began to ache and made me freak out. She was calling him 'honey',... asked a view things and sent him a lot of kisses. I saw his reply aswell. and he was writing her 'ur babyboy ***' DAMN, I was really mad that moment. my blood was rushing and my heart was beating fast , my stomache was turning me. WHAT THE HELL! Imidiatly I wake him and asked him that this nonsense is. He told me to calm down,... it's nothing. I replyed that it is something, since she is calling him honey and he's writing her 'her babyboy' and stuff like this. I told him I am not a fool. if he is having any affair with this girl or planing to make her his new girlfriend,... he should let me know. I was so sure of myself, and feeling don't lie. I knew there is more then what I see. So I told him, I am leaving the house by the end of the week. Till then I want to have my peace and I don't wish to be seeing things like this again within this time. He promised me to respect me. an other two days passed and I was preparing my stuff together. one more day, and I would be out of here. my bf and I were chilling on the couch watching TV, as he fell asleep so soon. suddenly I noticed the lightflash on his phonesreen. He has turned it silent again. I was checking the phone,.. the girl has just send him a message. I checket it and I thought my heart will stop to beat as I read the lines, ' I love you, your only baby' DAMNNNN,... I was not myself again. I nearly attacket my bf as I was out of control. I did not trust him anylonger and I called him a lier. I n my mind I saw different pictures that made me mad. I was totaly out of control. I started to feel dirty and misused. he was having sex with me, and maybe had sex with her too. anyway,... the night ended as the police came and my brother came to pick me, I did not wanted to stay an longer close to him, coz I didn't had myself under control and wasn't sure of what I am ready of.
That night I did not find any sleep. just like the nights before and after. I was tired, very tired. my body was shaking, my heart was beating so strong that it was aching me. my stomache was aching too and I find it hard to eat. That night I went online and send a long long message to the girl. I did not care what anyone was thinking, I had to do it. next day I called my bf and asked when he is around, for me to pick up my other proberties and things I own. I went to the place in the afternoon, thinking he would be there alone. Told him I do not want to talk anything, just to pick my stuff anf go. As I reached there I started packing my things. my bf was talking nonsense, I warned him to stopp it, else I might loose control again. but he did not want to stop and we end up in fighting. I was just out the door, as suddenly his best friend was standing in front of me and asked me 'how are you' I told him 'not good' and were trying to pass him, as he took me by the left arm and told me to get back in so we have a short talk. I told him, I got nothing to talk about,... he should talk to *him*(bf) if he wants to. but he did not give in and so I went back into the appartment as it all crashed down. I was crying bitter trears and told him that I can not do this any longer. We have been talknig long and my decition was made. I am notgoing back. his friend was telling me to take things easy, that everyone in realtionship has problems now and then,... we have to calm down and with time solve the problems in a calm way. I did not believe his word,... coz I felt this is beyond any problem in the past. and such I do not want to solve...
an other day,.. my bf asked me why I sent that message to this girl. That I should know that it has cost him a lot of problems down in his hometown. I told him, there was nothing bad I did by writing her the truth. I t is her , not me that made him have troubles now,... she is the devil to blame, not me. If the girl would have loved u as she said, she would have contact you u first and not go tell her father in hometown. Now I felt better,... I knew the girl is no longer intrested in him, and he seemed to feel real bad now as his plan did not succeed.
now I am living on my own for the past 3-4 weeks. now and then we are still having contact. there was a time, we were planing to stay seperated for a while... maybe till the end of the year. so each one of us is following his own way and get his planes and things fixed. maybe in time,... we would think of settle back and so. But I don't thinkg this is wise. I think it's better to let go and move on. It is still moving me when I think back, what he did to me. and I don't think that my feelings will change or that I will have trust again. in fact he does not show any care or will to make things change. I think it is best to let go,...
what do you think?

**RichardBackman** · March 18th, 2011 04:53 PM

I don't know him but it doesn't look good. He's definitely taking you for granted and seems to be planning to eventually enter a relationship with a villager from his home town.

**VellutoBruno68** · March 18th, 2011 06:05 PM

I must agree with Richard that this doesn't look good. His behavior was completely disrespectful and is not the behavior of someone who loves you and is honest about his dealings. He has shown you who he truly is...believe him and move on.

**Necie** · March 18th, 2011 10:40 PM

*BIG HUG*

I am so sorry for your troubles. I know (somewhat of) what you're going through. Unfortunately, it only gets worse if you go back.

What's that saying? Never make someone a priority if they only consider you an option. It looks like he was willing to risk losing you once (optional). He would probably consider doing it again. And the fact that the friend and family were in cahoots with it all is disturbing. SMDH... How dare his best friend put his hand on you!!! I don't care if it was to pull you back into the home or not!

If a man has a "friend" and cannot introduce you to him/her (YOU should be the first one that they meet) then there's a problem. If you've ever seen the movie Brokeback Mountain you'll see that the husband brings his lover/friend to meet his wife. He assumes that their affair is the last thing that his wife would ever figure out. But if a guy has a female friend the only reason why he isn't bringing her around is because he doesn't want them to know about each other. Period.
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How long have the two of you been together?

So, he wants to be with you now after the "friend" has already told him to get lost? See, she's decided to cut her losses and not allow him to play with her. You should do the same. That's just my sisterly opinion.

I hope things work out for you either way.
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Keep us posted!

**Dgirl** · March 19th, 2011 12:36 AM

DO NOT TAKE HIM BACK.....EVER!!
You can do better than that so called MAN!!

**Pale Male** · March 19th, 2011 12:57 AM

Based on the way you described the situation, it sounds like he was cheating or at least coming close to it. And if he wasn't cheating, then he didn't make much of an effort to show you that. I didn't read where he ever let you meet this other girl.

Doesn't sound too good to me either.

**CountryAngel** · March 19th, 2011 01:03 AM

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Originally Posted by RichardBackman
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I don't know him but it doesn't look good. He's definitely taking you for granted and seems to be planning to eventually enter a relationship with a villager from his home town.

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Originally Posted by Dgirl
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DO NOT TAKE HIM BACK.....EVER!!
You can do better than that so called MAN!!

What they said!

Your subject line is your answer, just change the punctuation.
Break up and move on!!!
Seriously, walk away and don't look back. He MIGHT still like you, but he's in love with someone else. That will NOT change by hope, prayer, or coconut cake.

**cuteone2010** · March 19th, 2011 05:45 AM

From what I read, I can tell that you are a very good person. You are honest and trustworthy, I can tell just by reading what you wrote, because not many woman would have been fine with their man hanging with a "old friend" even though he won't introduce you to her. When things like that goes down, that's the first warning sign. I can tell you right now that I would have told him NO from the get-go, because anytime there is a "blast from the past" trying to ease around, something is bound to happen. Every woman has this "gut" feeling they get when something is not right. ALWAYS follow your feelings, and just stay away from him. He knew you were a good woman, and should have kept you. You gave him enough time to tell the truth, and he never did, basically he didn't take your feelings into consideration. You had the right plan, just had the wrong man, and now that you know this, no need to keep wasting time with him anymore.

**PA B'woy** · March 19th, 2011 10:25 AM

Break up and move on.

I'm going to be frank, and this might be very hard to hear so please stop reading right now if you don't want to possibly be hurt worse than you are already hurting.

I'm not an expert on Nigerian culture by any means, but throughout my travels I have come across some very different cultural practices in relation to Western European/North American ones. This sounds suspiciously like what a good friend of mine who is Moroccan did, though he is not the only one I know of. In particular, you find this in societies where there is still a strong ethnocentrism along with 'arranged' marriages - I quote the arranged, because it may not always be a case of the parents/patriarch/matriarch picking the partner but their approval IS required - and romance is of the least importance. Remember romantic marriage is still a very new western concept and not the norm around the world.

Where the men (and it is typically men) become expats in order to achieve some educational or economic success it is accepted if they take on lovers. Remember the betrothal is not out of romance - and culturally it is accepted that men have 'needs'. This would explain why his family is ok with you in the role you are currently in - but would NOT be ok if he decided to marry you, you are not Nigerian (nor of his tribe, if tribal politics are strong in Nigeria). I know this sounds opposite to what we try to teach others about the IR community - that it is outdated thinking that you have to stick to your own - but it is still a cultural fact in many places.

I know it's tough to hear but you are fulfilling a role - it is not the wife-to-be one, that is who that girl from his hometown is.

Sorry to put it so bluntly but I don't know how else to say it.

**JennyLynn** · March 19th, 2011 02:12 PM

Hey dear!

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Originally Posted by Necie
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*BIG HUG*

I am so sorry for your troubles. I know (somewhat of) what you're going through. Unfortunately, it only gets worse if you go back.

What's that saying? Never make someone a priority if they only consider you an option. It looks like he was willing to risk losing you once (optional).
sad but true... definitly thats what he was! He would probably consider doing it again. And the fact that the friend and family were in cahoots with it all is disturbing. That one really hurt me to the deepest part. I felt like in one of those bad dreams where I end up as the biggest fool, or that kind of girl like in those films where the whole town was informed and she was the last to know. I was surprised that noone of them even said anything to me. Instead they were playing 'sunshine' SMDH... How dare his best friend put his hand on you!!! I don't care if it was to pull you back into the home or not! I don't know why, but I am thankful for this friend. he was the onlyone that seemed to be ready to listen to me and seemed to care and wanted us to sort out our troubles. coz all the while, I could not say anything to anyone. not to his part of family and not mine. It was a nice move of him to come and help us to talk about this troubles in a calm way.If a man has a "friend" and cannot introduce you to him/her (YOU should be the first one that they meet)--> u so right, girl! then there's a problem. If you've ever seen the movie Brokeback Mountain you'll see that the husband brings his lover/friend to meet his wife. He assumes that their affair is the last thing that his wife would ever figure out.
But if a guy has a female friend the only reason why he isn't bringing her around is because he doesn't want them to know about each other. Period.
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Yeah thats exacly what I have been thinking too. That's why I wrote the girl the late message, coz I thought she might not know that I even exist or so.

How long have the two of you been together? nearly 7 years!!

So, he wants to be with you now after the "friend" has already told him to get lost? See, she's decided to cut her losses and not allow him to play with her. You should do the same. That's just my sisterly opinion. I feel you,...but this whole thing is a bit more complicated then I discriped it above.
I hope things work out for you either way.
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Thank you so much for ur open opinion! am very thankful !Keep us posted! Oh sure I will!
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**JennyLynn** · March 19th, 2011 02:44 PM

I didn't read where he ever let you meet this other girl. I did not meet that girl, not then and not after.

**JennyLynn** · March 19th, 2011 02:53 PM

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Originally Posted by cuteone2010
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From what I read, I can tell that you are a very good person. You are honest and trustworthy, I can tell just by reading what you wrote, because not many woman would have been fine with their man hanging with a "old friend" even though he won't introduce you to her. When things like that goes down, that's the first warning sign. I can tell you right now that I would have told him NO from the get-go, because anytime there is a "blast from the past" trying to ease around, something is bound to happen. Every woman has this "gut" feeling they get when something is not right. ALWAYS follow your feelings, and just stay away from him. He knew you were a good woman, and should have kept you. You gave him enough time to tell the truth, and he never did, basically he didn't take your feelings into consideration. You had the right plan, just had the wrong man, and now that you know this, no need to keep wasting time with him anymore.

Thank you for ur words! U r so right,... Everyone should follow his feelings, coz they don't lie! that's what I always say! I know this experiance will change me somehow. I will not trust like I did before, and might won't be that fine anymore when it comes to female friends of my partner(s). I do have a lot of male friends,... but for me they r really just friends, nothing less and nothing more. As he told me that she was an old school friend, I did not suspect that something like this would happend. Instead I was feeling joy to meet someone of his school-days time,... may would get to hear some funny stuff of his low age time or so. But what finally happend was beyond any expectation of mine.

**JennyLynn** · March 19th, 2011 03:27 PM

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Originally Posted by PA B'woy
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Break up and move on.

I'm going to be frank, and this might be very hard to hear so please stop reading right now if you don't want to possibly be hurt worse than you are already hurting.
Hey dear. I had the courage to read ur lines.
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And as I'm through, it is not as bad as I thought it may be.
Well I thank u for ur well minded words. I can assure you that it is not what u thought of. Therefor I know the Nigerians very well on my own, also their culture. and also I know my partner very well. I don't know if I get you right, but what I can read is that u are trying to tell me that I am just a partner for a perioud of time and when the time is over , he might go back and stay with a woman of his hometown. did I get you right?? Well, my bf has not been to Nigeria for the past 15 years. He has spend his life in europe since the age of 17. He has been married before and got divorced. it's been long he got his papers and visas here. Also he can call himself an austrian citizn, and owns the passport. I know a lot of nigerians here that walk the way as u say. But I do not believe that my bf is walking that line. His attitude and way of life is very similar to that of the Europeans. He does not represented the culture of his country. Therefor he has a lot of enemies of his country ppls.
My feeling and my knowleg is telling me that is non of what u wrote here. Anyway... They say 'never say never'!
I'm not an expert on Nigerian culture by any means, but throughout my travels I have come across some very different cultural practices in relation to Western European/North American ones. This sounds suspiciously like what a good friend of mine who is Moroccan did, though he is not the only one I know of. In particular, you find this in societies where there is still a strong ethnocentrism along with 'arranged' marriages - I quote the arranged, because it may not always be a case of the parents/patriarch/matriarch picking the partner but their approval IS required - and romance is of the least importance. Remember romantic marriage is still a very new western concept and not the norm around the world.

Where the men (and it is typically men) become expats in order to achieve some educational or economic success it is accepted if they take on lovers. Remember the betrothal is not out of romance - and culturally it is accepted that men have 'needs'. This would explain why his family is ok with you in the role you are currently in - but would NOT be ok if he decided to marry you, you are not Nigerian (nor of his tribe, if tribal politics are strong in Nigeria). I know this sounds opposite to what we try to teach others about the IR community - that it is outdated thinking that you have to stick to your own - but it is still a cultural fact in many places.

I know it's tough to hear but you are fulfilling a role - it is not the wife-to-be one, that is who that girl from his hometown is.

Sorry to put it so bluntly but I don't know how else to say it.

**JennyLynn** · March 19th, 2011 03:33 PM

Dear comunity!
There r some news about this case,... but I am to busy to write it down tonight!
I will do it as soon as possible!
Thank you all, for ur open opinions you have shared with me and for giving me ur time!
I am very happy that I found a place where I can talk open and just say my mind and might get one or other advice from you!
wishing u all a great time!
XXX

**CountryAngel** · March 19th, 2011 04:33 PM

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Originally Posted by cuteone2010
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From what I read, I can tell that you are a very good person. You are honest and trustworthy, I can tell just by reading what you wrote, because not many woman would have been fine with their man hanging with a "old friend" even though he won't introduce you to her. When things like that goes down, that's the first warning sign. I can tell you right now that I would have told him NO from the get-go, because anytime there is a "blast from the past" trying to ease around, something is bound to happen. Every woman has this "gut" feeling they get when something is not right. ALWAYS follow your feelings, and just stay away from him. He knew you were a good woman, and should have kept you. You gave him enough time to tell the truth, and he never did, basically he didn't take your feelings into consideration. You had the right plan, just had the wrong man, and now that you know this, no need to keep wasting time with him anymore.

Nope, I would NOT have tolerated that nonsense for one minute!
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Sure sometimes men and women are JUST friends, but when they reconnect after 10+ years it is highly unlikely.

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Originally Posted by PA B'woy
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Break up and move on.

I'm going to be frank, and this might be very hard to hear so please stop reading right now if you don't want to possibly be hurt worse than you are already hurting.

I'm not an expert on Nigerian culture by any means, but throughout my travels I have come across some very different cultural practices in relation to Western European/North American ones. This sounds suspiciously like what a good friend of mine who is Moroccan did, though he is not the only one I know of. In particular, you find this in societies where there is still a strong ethnocentrism along with 'arranged' marriages - I quote the arranged, because it may not always be a case of the parents/patriarch/matriarch picking the partner but their approval IS required - and romance is of the least importance. Remember romantic marriage is still a very new western concept and not the norm around the world.

Where the men (and it is typically men) become expats in order to achieve some educational or economic success it is accepted if they take on lovers. Remember the betrothal is not out of romance - and culturally it is accepted that men have 'needs'. This would explain why his family is ok with you in the role you are currently in - but would NOT be ok if he decided to marry you, you are not Nigerian (nor of his tribe, if tribal politics are strong in Nigeria). I know this sounds opposite to what we try to teach others about the IR community - that it is outdated thinking that you have to stick to your own - but it is still a cultural fact in many places.

I know it's tough to hear but you are fulfilling a role - it is not the wife-to-be one, that is who that girl from his hometown is.

Sorry to put it so bluntly but I don't know how else to say it.

I hadn't considered that, but you may well be right. The fact he is now divorced and living out of Nigeria has nothing to do with it. Water always seeks it's on level.
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I too was expecting you to be a lot more blunt.
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JennyLynn, You seem nice, but naive and a tad bit desperate. What you have is a bad man who will NEVER marry you. He is using you. It happens, it happened to me. But where you and I seem to differ is that I'd rather have no man at all than a bad man who lies and cheats on me. I hope one day soon you will wise up and leave this triflin' fool. Times a wasting and I'm sure that even in Austria you can find a better man than him.

**Necie** · March 19th, 2011 04:49 PM

I've got Nigerian friends indeed... Not to generalize but ehhh... The ones I know seem to feel as if they have the RIGHT to as many women as they want for the most part. I certainly do not know JennyLynn's bf but... This one guy... I met him while going for one of my walks when I worked outside of the home. I gave him my number. I thought he was a really nice guy. Uh huh... Then I found out that he and I had a friend in common. That friend found out about the number exchange and laughed telling me that the man has been married for 15 years and has 5 kids. For 2 years he relentlessly pursued me. Offering to take me shopping and stuff. LOL! A few times he just popped up at my house. But now I'm getting way off topic (as usual...). One Nigerian introduced me to his wife as a friend. He then pursued me... o_O Telling me that because I know his wife she won't mind if he comes over (WTF) because she trusts him.

**JennyLynn** · March 19th, 2011 09:44 PM

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Originally Posted by CountryAngel
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Nope, I would NOT have tolerated that nonsense for one minute!
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Sure sometimes men and women are JUST friends, but when they reconnect after 10+ years it is highly unlikely.

I hadn't considered that, but you may well be right. The fact he is now divorced and living out of Nigeria has nothing to do with it. Water always seeks it's on level.
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I too was expecting you to be a lot more blunt.
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JennyLynn, You seem nice, but naive and a tad bit desperate. What you have is a bad man who will NEVER marry you. He is using you. It happens, it happened to me. But where you and I seem to differ is that I'd rather have no man at all than a bad man who lies and cheats on me. I hope one day soon you will wise up and leave this triflin' fool. Times a wasting and I'm sure that even in Austria you can find a better man than him.

Dear CounrtyAngel, I have expect to hear what u r telling me now. You can't just condemn someone u don't know becoz of prejudices or experiances u made.That's like putting all in one pot, and I do not like that. I can understand why u think I am naiv,... and I'm not saying that I'm not naiv at all. you need to know there is a looong story back,... said it before we have been almost 7 years and as u can imagine there where a lot of things happening. good and bad. However,... I will turn back to this later and u might change ur point of you,... maybe not. we'll see.

**CountryAngel** · March 20th, 2011 09:03 AM

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Originally Posted by JennyLynn
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Dear CounrtyAngel, I have expect to hear what u r telling me now. You can't just condemn someone u don't know becoz of prejudices or experiances u made.That's like putting all in one pot, and I do not like that. I can understand why u think I am naiv,... and I'm not saying that I'm not naiv at all. you need to know there is a looong story back,... said it before we have been almost 7 years and as u can imagine there where a lot of things happening. good and bad. However,... I will turn back to this later and u might change ur point of you,... maybe not. we'll see.

Seven years is a long time to invest in what you think is a relationship which will lead to marriage. I understand not wanting to give up after that much time; because I stayed in mine for 12 years, while he dangled the marriage carrot in front of me.
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The only way I will change my point of view is if he stops seeing this other woman, puts a ring on your finger AND sets a wedding date for the near future.

**Dgirl** · March 20th, 2011 03:32 PM

I AGREE CountryAngel, I also would have Went with him if he was gonna hang out with his.....FRIEND.....
Or had HER over for dinner so I would meet HER....
For you to have been with this guy for even a few months ( yeah I know 7 years..)
I would have MET the... friend.... no matter what.
For him to KEEP her from you he was planing a DATE from the GET go...

**JennyLynn** · March 25th, 2011 10:46 AM

hy guys!
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I know I have been promising u all to shared the news with you!

uuhmm, where do I start??! uuhm I don't really know,... coz this story right here is so damn personal.
I have been thinking long, if I should right it down right here or rather not. Since this is really personal, something I would not let everyone know,...I am a bit worried to write it here so openly. I know it was my intention to write here at this forum, coz I thought u might undertsand me or at least, that I can share my views and also my troubles, with you. But I know this forum is worldwide and everyone can take a look at it and read my story. And I don't think that I really want this. This is an issue I can not even discuss with a friend,... but with you here and also with the rest of the world????? .. I am asking myself ??! I don't know if u guys can feel me, but I had to say whats on my mind. I think maybe after a while,when I know the people of this forum better, I might get back to it.

**Necie** · March 25th, 2011 01:43 PM

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hy guys!
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I know I have been promising u all to shared the news with you!

uuhmm, where do I start??! uuhm I don't really know,... coz this story right here is so damn personal.
I have been thinking long, if I should right it down right here or rather not. Since this is really personal, something I would not let everyone know,...I am a bit worried to write it here so openly. I know it was my intention to write here at this forum, coz I thought u might undertsand me or at least, that I can share my views and also my troubles, with you. But I know this forum is worldwide and everyone can take a look at it and read my story. And I don't think that I really want this. This is an issue I can not even discuss with a friend,... but with you here and also with the rest of the world????? .. I am asking myself ??! I don't know if u guys can feel me, but I had to say whats on my mind. I think maybe after a while,when I know the people of this forum better, I might get back to it.

Oh, that's perfectly fine. No one will fault you for that. Heck, there are lots of things that I simply choose not to share with everyone. Whatever you feel comfortable sharing is fine. I hope that all is well!

**JennyLynn** · March 26th, 2011 09:46 AM

hy Necie!
thanks for your understanding!
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I can't really say that things r fine,.. but I am doing fine and that's just fine with me.
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For now, I am just following my way,... focusing on work and so. We will see what the time will bring!
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