Thread: relationship & the military

Was married to a Colombian most of the time I was in the Navy. IR isn't the hard part, the military has a long history of mixing it up. For most recruits its the first they are really spending any time with people outside their own ethnic groups so there's a lot of curiosity at first, then it just is – some people have a diverse group of friends, others prefer to stick to what they know. However, military policies really limit the occasional a$$hole's ability to do/say anything overt.

As far as macho, most of the women I knew/know in the military aren't that macho. They are just as feminine in the uniform as out.

It's the deployments, although I can't say from first hand experience as I was the one deployed all the time, the dread of watching the news, days on end of not hearing from your partner and knowing whether that is good news or bads news are the most trying part. But trust me, don't fool yourself, especially if you have a family while in, it's that person back home taking care of everything while you're gone that is the lion of the relationship.

I think a big part of why my fiancée and I have been able to make our LDR work is because we are both used to separation through being in the military.

Some women are strong mentally and physically...I am mentally. I read or hear women balancing military life and home, it works for some depends what agreements two people involved have made.

I like to be the female in a relationship and the man be who he is...working hard as well but letting my man be the head.